Throughout history, the stories from the bible and history books only showed one perspective; that of objective research, but from artefacts created only by those who documented the events on the side of the winners. Some of these accounts could be directly influenced by the winners themselves, and throughout history, human conflict had been present.
It is not so difficult to explain the daily stresses in the life of a normal human being who works in an 8-hour office. Sometimes, the stresses extend to more than the hours they render, and laws cannot completely restrict the working hours due to the economic situation of the world. In more recent history, industry leaders have innovated ways that could help make parts of people’s daily lives uniform, and this has granted them power.
Everyone in the world dreams of a life of luxury, free from stresses, and enjoying the similar lives of people who fought their way from rags-to-riches. But then again, they became rags-to-riches because they were the first to become winners in their own professional aspects. Everybody is trying to innovate and find the next best thing so they can be the first in history to become winners in that niche, and become a name in history.
Becoming a name in history also helps suffer the existential dread of humanity, and it also provides for the survival side of being human. Stress’ history begun from the inhuman treatment of slaves, and today, those who could open invisible doors and make them materialise are the people who could escape the eternal stress of routine work and the burden of dreams.
In a previous post, it was mentioned that to truly love someone, it is to accept his or her faults and shortcomings. Acceptance is the key to a true bond between two people. However, sometimes, the faults and shortcomings can reduce or destroy the capability of another person to become who they truly should be. Is this the time when enough is truly enough?
If a spouse’s shortcoming is verbal and physical abuse, and yet the counterpart just accepts the fact that this is their flaw and still continues to love them, will one judge them as wise or a fool? This clearly reduces or destroys the capability of the person not just to behim or herself, but to remain to look at themselves the same way.
Love is a powerful emotion, but if left unchecked, it could cause dire consequences that could change the life of another person in a positive or negative way. Some of these changes can remain permanent, such as physical or emotional scars from abusive partners. But the fact remains that all parties involved in the relationship have a say to have things remain as they are, or end them for the benefit of each other.
When you look at it, true love is a person being concerned with the growth of the other person, and they would be willing to give up everything, including their own love for the person, just to see them happy.
In the ever-busy and changing world, whether you are in the corporate, freelance or self-employed category, finding time to rest is a luxury, despite being a need. Most people in the fast-paced and competitive business world work more hours than they should in their jobs to help the company thrive. However, the focus on monotonous tasks may leave one to forget some responsibilities they have with themselves.
Rest is a responsibility to one’s self. When you rest, you slip away from the world momentarily, and you live out your subconscious in dreams, whether you dream or not during your sleep. It is a way of saying that you could take a break from reality, and reality is ever-so-definite that it is overwhelming in the same manner.
If you do not take a break from reality, you forget about your subconscious, and with its need unsatisfied, you will begin to question your reality, and your way of thought also becomes obscured because you are tied to your responsibilities for your survival, but not for the things you live for.
You may also be living the opposite life. You have too much free time on your part, but you only use your time unproductively. You may have a stable income with enough time to spend for yourself, but indulging yourself in luxury all the time will leave you no time to discuss with your subconscious.
This is where the importance of rest and silence is very important. When you rest, your mind relaxes. Silence allows you to hear your subconscious and review your life and your experiences during the day and the last few years. You escape reality for a while and feel your soul and your significance in the greater body of the universe.
Financial Services Compensation Scheme Chief Executive Mark Neale said that the UK will need a few more years until it sees the last few breaths of mis sold PPI. They project an increase of 2,000 PPI complaints coming into the FSCS this 2014 and that the end of the flurry of complaints is yet to come.
The Financial Ombudsman Service said that the number of payment protection insurance complaints had fallen from over 216,000 the first half of 2013, into 190,000 the second half. However, according to Chief Ombudsman Tony Boorman, the numbers are still high. He said that the UK is also still a ways to go until PPI is finally sorted out.
The FOS still handles 1,000 PPI complaints on a daily basis with 8 out of 10 complaints from different banks in favour of consumers.
UK’s financial sector had set aside a current total of £25 billion for PPI recompense. UK’s big banks account for more than 70% of PPI complaints in the last half of 2013.
PPI is an insurance product designed to repay loans, mortgages and credit cards in case consumers get sick, have an accident or become unemployed. Many consumers were sold the insurance when they did not need it.
People often find a person rude when he or she takes so much food from a buffet and then leaves it half-full or barely touched. One might say it is a waste of blessings. But in analogy, it is one’s responsibility to finish the plate of food they get, despite the amount, because everything can go to waste.
Irresponsible people waste many things, especially some other person’s time. However, there are people who just want to get the entire buffet for themselves because they have the ability to eat everything on their plate. Most humans are like this; we have this unlimited urge to control other people.
Control is important to retain one’s sense of individuality. If humans have control over the events surrounding them, they grant themselves the ability to live. The more they control, the more they recognize that they are living and thriving.
However, many people want to live their life their own way. Sometimes, this plan involves controlling people consciously or unconsciously to move exactly as they please to obtain their desired results. This urge to control gives them satisfaction.
In the world, this invisible war of control stretches from politics, with politicians, lobbyists and corporations, and to a molecular level where the strong live and the weak fall in the bacterial kingdom. Control, and self-fulfillment, is both a curse and grace of both an intelligent man and a primal creature.
But we humans have the ability to control our urge to control. This is what sets them different from the rest of the living organisms in the world.
In a practical world, you want to ensure that you have all your risks checked and assessed properly. Practicality ensures that you get maximum profit and use for everything you own and invest. This is why everyone has ideals and expectations about everything including the function of people important to them and they love.
However, this is the reason why many people are alone. Overanalyzing other people to avoid the pain that comes with relationships makes relationships superficial and something of an obligation rather than something genuine. People know their own shortcomings and they try to hide it for the sake of having someone accept them for who they are. They also analyse people to see if they will fit with them naturally.
The sad part is that none of them accepts the other for who the other person is. The positive experiences are the ones that last forever with them. Without acceptance, there is no true love between two people. It only fulfils the need to ensure that one doesn’t feel alone in the world.
When you learn to accept that love is about accepting the other for who they are and not just because of the good sides they show each other, then that is true love that can last a lifetime.
A true test of love is when two people fight each other, yet they still care for each other despite all that has happened.
I’m writing anonymously on a blog because I want to share something that only high-profile people know. I’m a businessman; I’ve built myself up from scratch since 1985. During that time, I was 20-years old. I designed a ground-breaking computer program that aided many local companies the power to defend their computers against viruses. This was replaced in the future by better anti-virus and anti-rootkit software.
I was earning in the big money during such a time. Until now, patents for my work earn me royalties as future companies build and improve their own work on my earlier works.
I was finally enjoying life around the year 2000. I’ve bought a great house. I have my private pool. I could throw as many parties as I wanted with the money I have. But then, I wasn’t happy with the millions I earned in the bank. My family is happy right now, all my children have gone to college and one already has a family and she is excelling in her own business.
In short, I was bored. I lost my way after my objective was completed.
When we complete objectives, we lose track of ourselves. We may be proud of our work, but we’re left to question whether we can still top the work we’ve done. We can always question if we can improve ourselves.
When one is left by the feeling of achievement, it is when they question their own integrity in their own craft. This is a struggle in itself.
When my life became comfortable, I knew I needed some sort of struggle. So, once again, I tried doing something hard. This time, I tried to learn something I completely dreaded in the past; writing.
After reading this post, I guess you won’t find any struggle of mine to find the right words to fit my statement. I guess I’m improving, but it this is still a struggle, a struggle that helps me feel I’m alive.
One famous quote reads that people would be very wise if they only admitted their mistakes earlier. Making mistakes are innate with humans. Being imperfect beings, the brain and emotions equate the balance inside humans. Humans learn through mistakes, regardless how big and small.
This new year is an opportunity for people who had made mistakes to learn and be better people. Surely, many people had made their own resolutions that would change their life and their interaction with other people. The celebration of the new year is to release the negativity that was born from the year past and make things turn well.
It is not restricting to impose an ideal resolution upon yourself, but you can only achieve your resolution if you accept that you can fail in doing your objectives at any time. People who know they can fail and accept it often try the hardest simply because they recognize they have nothing to lose in trying.
You can always try, but you must also know that you can fail. But if you do not try and make a mistake, there is no chance that you could learn what you need to learn.
There is no shame in making mistakes, but there is shame in regretting. Learn from your mistakes, that is one resolution that is easily achievable for anybody this 2014.
Detachment is an important part especially in the professional world; your actions should never be attached with emotions and instead dealing with practicality and the better good is important. However, when you bring this to your own social life, with friends and family, this could cause coldness and distance between you and them.
Human attachment is born from accepting the problems of another person, a group of friends or your family members. You vow to carry with them these problems as they would carry yours, which develops trust.
While most people are encouraged to be independent to perform well with their own professional tasks, dependence and opening up to other people is another thing. Dependence means you would need them to carry your load. When you open up, you could carry your own load, but you could also depend on them to help you sort things out.
Some people find depositing one’s load to other people, even to their closest friends, as a sign of weakness. While it could possibly be, especially for people with high principles, depending on other people is a sign that you are still human; that you are capable of error and only by working together with people you trust could you find a proper solution.
Opening up to other people is like seeing your doctor. You are not sick, but you are not feeling human at all. It is never a healthy thing to deny your humanity and dedicate yourself entirely to your passion and ambition. Every human needs interaction, trust and acceptance.
People have something to fear possibly because of a simple phobia, a trauma from a previous time, or possibly because they question their capability to cope should the situation happen. Many people dread the presence of fear because it feels like it is a waste of time compared to the comfort and safety they enjoy without it. However, fear is important in one’s life.
Fear can make things easier to understand. When you fear something, you might feel confused because it limits your capability to reason, but this certain kind of fear reveals to you your capabilities, your personality and your weaknesses and strengths as a person. Without fear, you have no gauge as to the limits of your body.
However, what you should not fear is breaking the limits you have. Living in constant fear of things you recognize will not make fear an essential part of your improvement, but only a factor that could drive down your personality and everything else about you. Fear must only be a signal for you that it is time to improve; that what you are so afraid of should be something that will help you overcome anything.
The recognition of fear is normal in any human being. It is part of any human’s existence in the world. However, doing nothing about one’s fear will only make things worse and it could even drive one insane from such instances.